such are the dangers of forums, and indeed life itself! it always amazes me how people remember things differently, so here's a link to help you separate the (well-meaning) hog-wash from the (well-meaning) hog-wash
http://lifehacker.com/how-to-train-your-mind-to-think-critically-and-form-you-1516998286 As God's my witness i was going to say something like that, but since i was the 'stranger' in town, know one 'knows', i deleted the little i had typed. That's why i haven't posted anymore. When i see some one either doesn't trust you, because they don't know you, and it's on something in the past that's fairly dissipated and enigmatic, with many 'dots' to connect, i often shift into the "if they can't see it, you can't explain it to them" mode. That's why theologians argue all the time - too many 'Labels' with too many loose ends dangling in the wind over something their hearts are greatly attached too. The fact is we're both right, just like with religion many times.
If i come across a camcorder i'll post a vid of what i'm talking about. Since it's so slight in movement a screen capture app wouldn't grab it. Off to finished my tune..
Tim