I run ASIO4ALL V2 on my notebook without any major problem (only problem I've had is when I shutdown my DAW, the sonarpdr.exe is still running waiting for something, anyway that's another story)...
When you start sonar, make sure the asio4all loads, you'll see it in your task bar, a green little play button icon should be loaded. I'd also check in your preferences->audio drivers, click on the ASIO Panel button, make sure your sound card is selected and running. If for some reason it is disabled, try and enable it - you may get an error - in that case you'll have a better idea why it is disconnected.
Getting support for ASIO4all is next to nothing, there is no support, zero, ziltch!
If there is an ASIO driver for your sound card, then best to use that instead of ASIO4all....
If all else fails, then as others suggest get yourself an external sound card.