-3dB peaks should be fine for the mastering guy to work with. So would -6dB. Or even -12dB. Either way, he's going to turn it up. If anything, I'd consider -3 to be a bit hot.
What he's really asking for is enough headroom to adjust the RMS values without having to squash those peaks too much. If you gave him a file that peaked at, say, -0.1dB, then it would be physically impossible for him to raise the RMS level without significant peak limiting. Giving him 3dB means he's got more options.