Loudness wars will never end, unfortunately, until a governing body steps in. There's bad in all of that. But, at least we can admit that recordings should be Mastered with less priority on loudness. I miss great sounding releases that you could crank up and would have a dynamic impact second to none.
My best advice is to just keep away overs, and mix loud enough that your mix hovers around or just above the middle of the meters. You can push up a little more to taste, but keep out of the red, if possible. If you've got one or two peaks that clip, just drop in a limiter to your Master buss, don't dither, don't change bit-depth or sampling rates, and DON'T adjust the Threshold or Peak! Let the limiter work on ONLY the clipped peaks and nothing else.
A great Mastering Engineer will give it a listen and tell you to make an adjustment. Many of them are enthusiastic about their jobs and want and will work with you. That's what I like about the good ones. They know why they get paid.