dubdisciple
I have had a couple of not so good moments with [edit - insert name of any one of a number of human beings here] but I do realize he is trying to help. Maybe that enthusiasm goes over the top, but the intentions are good. I don't always agree with his methods or how he interacts but it is no more my job to police him than it is his job to police others. I think you take it all as a package with him and filter what you cannot tolerate without tossing the baby out with the bath.
This is
great advice for dealing with people in general. I have a friend who is, shall we say, somewhat difficult to deal with. But, he has a truly warm heart, and we all have our demons.
I accept him for who he is, and we have a very good relationship because he knows he can be himself and I won't be constantly judging him. Although that doesn't eliminate the part that's difficult to deal with, it makes it
much easier for the truly warm heart to surface...which is what's really at the core of his personality.
Zoom out, and it's clear Alex is trying to help, albeit with a style that can be abrasive. However, to me that's preferable to someone who has a style that can be abrasive but is not at all interested in being helpful. Furthermore, the "text only" trap is always in play, which makes it difficult to see the true personality behind the words.