I've not seen any limiter that lets you specify a target average level, although that might be a useful feature in some future product. But you don't need it.
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Voxengo SPAN and insert it into the master bus after everything else, e.g. after the limiter. Set it to Mastering mode and set the meters to K-14. Watch the meters as you adjust the threshold control on the limiter; as you lower the threshold the meters will rise. Lower the threshold until the meters are bouncing around 0, jumping up to no more than +6 during the loudest parts of the song. That'll get you into the ballpark. If it's still not loud enough for you, change the metering to K-12.
Different limiters have different features. Some are very complex, others are very simple. Some don't have a threshold control. In that case, they'll have an input level control instead, which does the same thing but in an opposite fashion: raising the control raises your average level. Some have intelligence built in to make the process easier, while others require you to fully understand how limiters work in order to use them.
One useful resource is a document from iZotope, the Ozone Mastering Guide. Although the advice is specific to iZotope's own Ozone product, it's generic enough to apply to whatever software you happen to use for mastering. I highly recommend you download and read it - several times if necessary.