What you're looking for is commonly called a "mute group" or "choke group".
You can set this up in most advanced soft-samplers. Much easier in something like Kontakt than DimPro or anything that uses .SFZ (due to the lack of dedicated editor and documentation)
If you have Kontakt, HALion, Mach5, etc.... load the Wav files for the desired cymbal and create a mute-group there.