I sent an email to tech support but no answer yet...
What I found out in the meantime is that for a sidechainable VST plug-in to show one sidechain input, the maximum used inputs from "VST plug-in properties" must be set to 4. If set to 2 the plug-in will not show any sidechain input, even if its capable of sidechaining...
(thats: utilities>cakewalk plug-in manager>"select your vst">plug-in properties> set max used inputs)
By default the "maximum used inputs" for my Sonitus Fx vst's ( for all compressor, gate etc..) is 2, and it cannot be changed ! If I set it to any other number it will not be saved...
This means now that I'm still doing something wrong, there is a bug with my X2a or my SonitusFx compressor and gate are not sidechain capable... So what could be?