One of the best gain staging tips i ever heard was to dial your kick drum peak at -14db to -10db and then build all the other layers around that.
That's False!!! Not True at all!! That's not for every song. What if your song has 40 tracks in it? If you song has 40 tracks in it, -14dB will be way way way to loud to build a song around it.
The volume level of your Kick or any other instrument is Relative to the Number of tracks you have in a project.
The more tracks you have in a song, the lower each track has to be. Because, if you have 10 tracks at -10dB, the sum of those 10 tracks will be less the the sum of 20 tracks at -10dB.
Its all Relative Bro. you do not start your kick at a fixed point. It depends on the track count
CJ