Every time I add quotes to a reply then need to edit the post, the quotes tags "[quote ] [/quote ]" dissapear so I don't know how to edit these.   I end up with a mess of double triple or even quadruple quotes, when I wanted only 1.  Is there a seting to see all the tags? 
 

Depends on what browser you're using. The forum software doesn't like new versions of Firefox.
Visit the Cakewalk Coffee House forum. There are lots of threads there about browsers and which ones work.
IE 8 here, but to see all the shortcuts and menu items (bold, italic, size, smileys, insert link/image, etc.) the zoom feature can't be anything except 100%.