John
The interesting thing that was posted above about sends being not well controlled with buses v VCA is a little bit interesting but may not be much of a problem in reality. Buses can be a source for a send too. That seems to me to handle the issue described above well enough.
In the end it wouldn't hurt Sonar to have VCA faders as an option. I just think their usage as being a requirement is a little exaggerated. Nice to have but not a requirement.
The issue with Send relative volumes is a frequent issue.
I do individual drum processing as mentioned by Dizzi45Z in #17. Usually, things are fine...until I want to make a significant change in the drum presence. NOT the end of the world but it's a hassle. A VCA fader would definitely help out.
I also recently had this balance issue in a string quartet arrangement I made for a remix of Little Empire's song "Bullet" :
https://soundcloud.com/user-581876462/bullet-reimagined-iThe string arrangement is a critical part of this slower bluesy-ballad version. (The original is a faster alt-pop-rock tune that can hear if you search on Amazon / iTunes.)
I used two sets of strings quartets as the OP mentioned. Rebalancing the individual tracks was not much fun and a VCA fader would've been nice.
There is another use case: heavily layered rock guitars. I love Brian May's use of these in many Queen mega-hits and love coming up with my own homages to his style. VCA faders would really help out there as well since he's essentially making jazz-trios or orchestral arrangements using many guitar layers.
Will I run from Sonar cuz I don't have VCA faders? Not likely.
But, as you alluded, it would be a nice added feature that most other world-class DAWs deliver.
(BTW - having the same features as other DAWs helps me move / migrate mixes between DAWs that other folks use. Also, when I see a technique, I can easily adopt (steal?! LOL) them and use them in Sonar.)