To the OP I'm confused, you're asking what everyone here is using but say you have used the all the others, does that mean you bought them or just tried the demo's ?
All the others you have used (or own) are pretty much all the ones that people here use.
Toontracks, fxpansion and XLN Audio being probably the most common.
The others I see are no more than libraries that have to be used in kontakt which is a major minus in my opinion.
I'd love to hear why you think BFD Eco is "terrible" ?
Personally I think fxpansion have led the market in drum software for some time.
Superior is good but I would place it in between Eco & BFD2 in my top three.
I'd say my music is quite eclectic but has strong routes in early UK punk and indie but I also do ska and electronica.
The big question when moving on from the likes of session drummer to something like superior or BFD2 is do you want generic presets and midi loops or do you want complete control ? I never use drum loops and I never will because I want to be calling ALL the shots
Steve