I'm afraid I'm not doing a great job explaining this. Complicating matters is the fact that the SSL, while flexible and powerful in it's routing, can't compare to modern and digital mixers.
It may take a TON of patch cables to make it happen, but it might be possible to utilize hardware monitoring. However, the console is wired a certain way right now (under the hood where things are not easily accessible) and no one else using the studio is interested in utilizing hardware monitoring with no latency (yet....).
The software mixer (from RME for the MADI card) may be the answer. I use a similar version in my home studio that also has zero latency FX built in. This paired with the insane patch bay may contain a solution (thus the patch cables)
Some sessions, I will use the SSL in the old school way, mix through the board, and commit the mix to "tape" (DAW).
There is an ancient computerized Recall system that doesn't include motorized anything, but I don't think I have the patience for it, nor do most of my clients. Judge if you must.
In any event, I'm grateful to everyone who commented and I'll try to update this after I've progressed!