Thanks to all for your answers!!
@Notnat, I did a white noise test on my room only just a few weeks ago and I adjusted the crossover for the sub and the volume of the sub based on what my Omni mic was picking up and delivering to the spectral analyzer. I then tuned an EQ setting for my interface and saved it. I will keep working on listening better. To me, the bass is washing out things I want to hear (like the kick etc). Before this mix, I had tried lifing the high pass filter up to like 70, but I really didn't like that either because a lot of the bass sound I wanted was lost.
I don't know what type of stereo the band is listening to the recording through. I just get their requests for more bass (in every mix).
@TheBand, A spectral analysis that spans time like Ozone's would be an interesting thing to review. I don't own any non-Sonar plugs except M-AutoAlign which I use to resolve phase issues with live recordings.
@JeffEvans, I'm with you on this. My initial mix had WAY more drums. Subsequently I tried lifting the bass above the kick with the high pass. Yes, this was a live recording of the band. This is a video of a different song from the same night...
http://youtu.be/YyrKrDALLdc.
At the bottom of this link, you can see how everything was miked up.
http://forum.cakewalk.com/m/tm.aspx?m=2847415&p=2.
I'll continue to let different instruments take focus on different tracks. I don't think I'll push the bass this hard on every track, though.