Thank you for the replies and advice!
Honestly, I don't know if any of the visual cues/mock L R busses or anything worked better than just concentrating and focusing intently on exactly what was happening on each side. Just took time and hard work, like every other thing....ever...
I pushed things much harder to each side than I am have ever done (always worried about overdoing it) partly due to listening to familiar reference recordings in headphones and switching back and forth to realize just how much the L/R channels differed.
I never listen to music in headphones (for obvious reasons), except for the purpose of recording, so I had never really focused on that before, not really.
Guitarpima - Yes, not quite done with the mix so I will do exactly that.
Again, Thank you.
-b