I agree. Songs got me through my parents' and sister's deaths. Anything you can devote full concentration to can block out black thoughts, at least for awhile.
The kids are putting together a slideshow for the memorial, so my intention is to compose a piece to accompany the slideshow. That's if ST3 ever finishes downloading...I'm on the third day now. Gotta have my trusty Miroslav Philharmonik on disk first.