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2014/11/03 18:40:46
jbow
OlPal... that reminds me of my favorite verse in the Bible, "...and it came to pass!"
 
J
2014/11/03 18:42:13
ampfixer
I've lost 3 family members in the last 2 weeks. I know what it's like. Just keep putting 1 foot in front of the other and you'll get through it. All my best thoughts heading your way.
2014/11/03 18:53:54
jbow
Thanks John, she is tired and ready. I'm OK with her going, really she has been pretty much gone for a year. I hope she doesn't linger and suffer because some people don't want to let things take their course. I don't mean to sound callous but she is blind, pretty much deaf, does not know who anyone is, can't get out of bed... you know? She would not want this. She was a very tidy woman with a lot of pride in her home and her handiwork, she made all the rugs, all the curtains, she cooked and cleaned and would be mortified if she knew she was living the way she is, but that is life, we all get old but there comes a point where it is counter productive to try to make someone keep living.
I kept my last dogs alive about a year longer than they should have lived by feeding them fried chicken, pizza, liver, whatever... until they couldn't get up and walk, they just stared. The last one, I finally took to the vet and she just laid down on the table and waited. I learned a lot through those old dogs.
I know people are not dogs but life is life. I do not favor euthanasia for people in any form but at some point I wonder if we don't prolong someone's suffering out of self interest.
I just don't know. They say death is natural but it never seems natural to me.
 
BTW, I just got a report that she started to eat or drink again. I think it is the Alzheimer's. Eating comes and goes, she had a Boost. I still think she is on the way out. I think she wants to go and be with dad.
 
Thanks everyone !
Julien
2014/11/03 18:54:26
jbow
ampfixer
I've lost 3 family members in the last 2 weeks. I know what it's like. Just keep putting 1 foot in front of the other and you'll get through it. All my best thoughts heading your way.


Wow John... are you OK?
 
Julien
2014/11/03 19:29:34
Leadfoot
I pray that the Lord's peace be with you during this time jbow.
2014/11/03 19:58:38
Rimshot
Take care Julien.  Sending good thoughts your way.
2014/11/03 21:53:10
dubdisciple
Sorry to hear this.  As you know, I just recently lost someone dear to me.  My heart goes out to you and you and your family are in my thoughts.
2014/11/03 22:26:33
ampfixer
jbow
ampfixer
I've lost 3 family members in the last 2 weeks. I know what it's like. Just keep putting 1 foot in front of the other and you'll get through it. All my best thoughts heading your way.


Wow John... are you OK?
 
Julien




I'm fine, thanks. Two aunties and father in law. I parted with my mum 2 years ago this month, and my dad 5 years ago this month. I really hate this time of year.
 
Your mum and mine sound very similar. She was 91 and had a massive stroke. I was holding her hand when she passed and looking in her eyes. She was ready to go and I'm glad she found peace.
 
A little piece of you goes with them, but a little piece of them stays with you.
 
I wish you well.
2014/11/03 23:32:24
spacealf
Go and see her. Everyone gets old. Hope she lives a few years longer.
 
2014/11/04 10:10:13
robbyk
You and yours are often in my prayers as I deal daily with death. My mom went into dementia many years ago, my wife's mom is just entering so we are better prepared. I see my oncologist in two weeks and he has scheduled me to go into palliative care (again, the first time in April 2013, I outlived their 6 month hospice care rule) but now that I have the Lord and His music again, I hope to survive the winter and beyond :)
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