There are a few ham radio members here, Ive been licensed since 1976, Karyn is a ham(in several ways lol, luv ya karyn) and there was another forumite whose call was part of his user name.
AFA code, it kept me from obtaining a license until I purchased a learning cassette tape and listened as I rode around on service calls, so dont feel bad, and certainly dont let the old timers make you feel bad about being one of those cber no code types.
Those chinese hand helds are a cheap way to get into vhf/uhf, but pita to program. I would obtain a copy of CHIRP and the special usb programming cable, and its a snap.
But dont get hung up with 2 meters, with your general there is a wide world of rag chewing, nets, dx, experimentation with digital modes, wire antennas, and so on.
Yes, the test material has changed a lot, and even the extra is not as complicated as it was when I took mine in 1978.Heck, we had an old timer here who had to draw a schematic when he took his amateur test!
Check out QRZ.com and Eham.com for forums, news, and the like.Also ask your ham buddy about hamfests or swapfests to find some good deals on used hf gear.
Gud Luk n 73 OM
de Joe