bapu
Sad, but at least she is in touch with the fact that she feels.

Good point.  MUCH better than keeping it all inside.
 
My mom lost her father when she was 12 and turned out alright, but her sister (my Aunt) was only 8 and ended up with several mental issues brought on by the event (which she blocked out for decades).

We've known this was coming for a couple of months but the kids weren't told about it until this past week, when the doctors gave my son-in-law as little as two weeks, maybe up to a couple of months.
 
But she is a smart girl. She knew her dad was sick and asked me a lot of questions about my parents' and my sister's deaths. I tried to frame it as positively as I could, knowing we'd be having a painful conversation later.
 
But even though I tried to get her to talk about it, she wouldn't. Not until she got the cell phone and started texting. Somehow that made it easier.
 
Tonight at the hospital her mom told her to stop bugging grandpa with so many texts. But as she was leaving and I got my hug, I whispered into her ear "text me later". I'll be keeping my phone on the nightstand tonight.

Sorry to hear that, Bit. Kids are tough cookies though, and often far better at adapting and coping than us adults. There comes a time in every kid's life when they learn that their parents aren't indestructible, I'm sorry she's been forced into that realization so young, bless her.

Life never lets up does it? She's so lucky to have a grandpa like you Dave. Comforting and teachable moments are so difficult...but you're doing fine. So sorry for this situation. But so glad she has someone like you to turn to. Stay strong, ol pal. Stay strong.

She has a very wise old head to turn to for guidance and you have someone to keep you young. Sounds like a good combo. Sorry to hear the news - been there, done that, but surprisingly a lot of positives also came from the opportunity to be able to say goodbye and such which some people don't get chance to.

Very tough indeed, and as has already been said, it is good that she is aware of her feelings (lost a younger sister when I was about 5 and my dad when I was 11 and for one year was in the odd situation of having all four of my grandparents living but no one else from my immediate family. I also made the unhealthy decision to stuff most of my feelings after my dad's death).

That's hard for anyone to take, let alone a young child. It's wonderful that you can be there for her and that she knows she can contact you anytime. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

She's very fortunate to have an understanding and compassionate grandfather like you Dave.......you'll definitely be a pillar of strenght for her.........sorry to hear the bad news about your son-inlaw. 

Such a hard thing to deal with. Even though we know it's coming, we're never quite ready.
 
Draw close to family and friends..... you don't know how long you will be blessed to have them with you and it will all end much too soon.
 
Prayers for you and your family Dave as you all go through the hard times to come.

I'm glad you are there for her.