Julien, I am so sorry to hear about the difficulties with the hospital staff and the doctors.  I hope you get some help soon.  It's hard, being the patient advocate.  You and your family are in my prayers. 

Will be praying for your Dad Julien...

I went through that also...haven't been the same since...
 
Praying for the best!

This is some really PC software to pull s-p-i-c out of hos-p-i-c-e. Amazing really. I am amazed that they don't let things just play out and let the community ostracize a user who uses racial slurs or ban them, if they don't delete and stop doing it. It is almost as offensive as the slur itself, like we cannot be trusted, like zero tolerance in schools that gets kids expelled for biting their poptart into the crude shape of a gun, or drawing one on paper. People need to be alloed to be responsible or to not be and to suffer the consequenses of their actions. It all seems so stupid to me, are we reall that thin skinned or are we really that intolerant of tolerance?
Sorry if I am pushing the boundaries of the TOS or anything... it is just that sometimes things that should be so simple just no longer make any sense to me.
I remember some of the infamous "flame wars" from back in the 90s as I am sure some of you do and frankly, as distasteful as some were they were better than being treated like a kid... it is what moderators are for and we need a few user/mods here instead of this sort of virtual proofreader. I guess it is no big deal, it just somehow seems a little insulting for a piece of software to make a judgement call on what I (or you) write. Besides that, if someone were to want to use a slur they certainly cold easily get around this thing that changes letters to ****. It makes no sense to me... but it isn't my call, I just felt the need to vent.
Sorry...
J

You seem to be doing remarkably well at handling a bad situation.  My prayers and best wishes continue.  

Thank you Bubba and Larry and others... and Larry, it is just ife. You cannot change the past but you can put it behind you. Try making a mental effort to live as you know your parents would want you to. They would not want you to be less than the best you can be. I hope things change for you, for the better... that you will carry no feelings of guilt because you shouldn't, that you can completely forgive anyone who may have messed up and that you can be happy with life as it is. There is life and death in this world. There is beauty and ugliness. There is health and there is suffering. There is freedom and there is bondage... but you can only live where you are and only one day at a time...
and as Dr. King said in his speech, "What is your life's blueprint?"
"If it falls your lot to be a street sweeper, sweep streets like Michelangelo
painted pictures, sweep streets like Beethoven composed music, sweep streets
like Leontyne Price sings before the Metropolitan Opera. Sweep streets like
Shakespeare wrote poetry. Sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and
earth will have to pause and say: Here lived a great street sweeper who swept
his job well. If you can't be a pine at the top of the hill, be a shrub in the
valley. Be be the best little shrub on the side of the hill."
http://seattletimes.com/special/mlk/king/words/blueprint.html
 
This is what your parents would want for you... look outward with love. You will heal, completely.
 
Julien
 
 

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You seem to be doing remarkably well at handling a bad situation.  My prayers and best wishes continue.  

Well Jan. There is nothing else I can do but accept life as it comes... but thank you. I appreciate that. Sometimes we can only agree with Job and say, "The Lord gives and The Lord takes away, blessed be the name of The lord". I think that I can do that or I can become bitter or feel guilt of some sort or allow some other problem into my life. I think agreement with Mr. Job is much better. These things are pretty much out of our control.
Thanks!
 
J

Sorry to hear that, man. Best to you and yours and well wishes to your dad. I'm sure your presence means a lot to him. You're a good guy.

Thanks Beep... I wish I could be there now, he was asking where I am. I would call but he can't understand me on the phone. He has known something was coming, he asked my wife to set up financial pwer of attorney over him and mom. We got that done last month, he knows that she will take care of them... or mom. It made my sister mad but she is incompetent. My wife is a CPA and a financial wizard... she also has to do everything that involves getting anything done about anything...
I think everything will resolve itself very soon. He will either get the right diagnosis and be on the mend or he will pass away within a week... I think.
 
Better days:

About a month ago:
 

Sorry to hear that, my friend. Best wishes to you and your father.