first try a rescan of your plug in manager,
if that doesn't work you can try a reset (back up any custom plug in menu layouts you may have)
if after the reset session drummer 3 is missing from your vst menu then you know a reinstall is needed.
move on to this:
http://forum.cakewalk.com/FindPost/2903969 youll need to remove session drummer and its contents from the c\programfiles\vst plugins
then do a custom install of sonar again only just installing session drummer 3.
it takes about 10 minutes.