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as we only have one life

ORIGINAL: ebinary

My approach is this: marry a beautiful women, have a couple of kids, then act so annoying that your wife prays that you will stay in the studio.

Eric

ORIGINAL: ghijkmnop
Harv--You have 20 years on me (and I respect my elders), but I cannot subscribe to that set of beliefs. I'd be angrier than I already am. <g>

ORIGINAL: bubblefish

hey bill

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as we only have one life

one at a time anyway,


good luck with the dharma, you could do alot worse IMO. but be careful thats stuffs highly contagious and terminal....

ORIGINAL: anton harris
mate ,could you wave your magic wand my way....i could do with a new lge diaphragm condenser

ORIGINAL: michael japan

This will be very scattered but as the Italian’s say, “come mangiare come parlare”. Talk like you eat, in other words you aren’t analyzing every bite. So bear with me-first impressions and thoughts. It's very late, and I'm very tired and I'm enjoying some Mondavi Private Selection before I nod off(just got back from a gig and have 2 tomorrow), but felt compelled to bring up another side here and at least add that, "you get out of something what you put into it." I'm been married for many years (twice) and both of my wives understand (understood) my need to make music, otherwise I wouldn't have married them. I'm a musician, what am I suppose to do, heart surgery? I can see that it's a little different when it's a hobby-I'm pretty much full time-I'm not that good-I just can't do anything else. When I have a day off there is nothing I would rather do than spend it with my wife. My wife has helped to make me into the man I am, and I have helped to make her into the beautiful woman she is. I wrote a song once called, "Say I Love You 100 Times a Day." One of the lines says;
"tell her she's beautiful and beautiful she'll be, and you'll see what wonders words of love can do." It's never too late for love. In the heat of emotion is no time to bring up your requests and or "complaints", but you can ask to have a talk when you are calm and sit down and share how you feel about the situation and go for the give and take. Otherwise, it's not marriage-it's bondage. If you can't sit down and explain your need to make music, and listen to her need for affection and attention, and enjoy and look forward to your times together then things have gone awry.

I always loved that line that Danny Glover says in Grand Canyon when he’s helping Klein out on the side of the road and this gang leader has a face to face confrontation with Glover at the point of a gun. Instead of Glover wetting his pants he decides to give the kid some advice. He says, “man, things ain’t supposed to be this way.” Very simple, but I couldn’t and can’t get it out of my mind. The solutions in life are often very simple-yet so hard to put into effect. Time is more valuable than money-believe me I know. I was brought up in a very privileged family and my dad showered me with gifts, yet didn’t make it to my graduation because he was too busy. He sent money instead. The money was nice, but…

Two are definitely better than one and I can’t imagine what my life would be without my wife, my kids, their kids, my golden retriever, my friends, this forum, etc. There is a proverb that says,
“where no oxen are the crib is clean, but much increase is by the strength of the ox.” Wives, band members, employees, kids, pets, friends, etc. take a lot of work and there are many times I have had to give up what I wanted to do for the sake of the community or what’s best. And more often than not it was a blessing in disguise. You never lose by giving, but it has to be sincere. I could never buy my wife off with gifts. I’ve put years of training into her and her me, and in plain language, she just ain’t that stupid. I didn’t marry her for her looks, I married her because she’s beautiful. (going on 20 years-will put a photo here of tonight’s gig but take it off in a couple of days.) As the old saying goes, “don’t marry the woman you can live with, marry the woman you can’t live without.

On a professional level, going to my studio isn’t always the answer to me for creative inspiration. I have found more often than not than when I do things for others then the man above has a way to pour out inspiration in double time. When you pour out, He’ll pour in, and you can never outpour Him. The inspiration for some of my best songs have come from doing little things, or walking my dog, helping with the dishes etc.

I do hope all of you who are having problems will have a heart to heart talk with your mates and “tell it like it is” without fear.

I’ll stop now. Got lots of studio work to finish up before I take Keiko to the mountains in a couple of weeks.

Cheers

Never Underestimate The Power of Women

A couple goes on vacation to a fishing resort in northern Maine.
The husband likes to fish at the crack of dawn, the wife likes to
read. One morning the husband returns after several hours of fishing
and decides to take a nap.

Although not familiar with the lake, the wife decides to take the
boat out. She motors out a short distance, anchors, and continues to
read her book. Along comes a game warden in his boat. He pulls up
alongside the woman and says,

"Good morning Ma'am. What are you doing?"

"Reading a book," She replies, (Thinking, "Isn't that obvious?")

"You're in a restricted fishing area," he informs her.

"I'm sorry officer, but I'm not fishing, I'm reading."

"Yes, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start
at any moment. I'll have to take you in and write you up."

"If you do that, I'll have to charge you with sexual assault," says
the woman.

"But I haven't even touched you," says the game warden.

"That's true, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you
could start at any moment."

"Have a nice day ma'am", and he left.

ORIGINAL: Stokes

One work around for me is that my wife is an early sleeper. She's asleep by 9pm. I do a shot of esspresso at 8:30 and then watch her fall asleep. Sometimes I help out by bringing all the lights down. hehe!

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The only thing I can't get my wife to do (in the studio -- keep it clean boys) is work with me. As she puts it, her eyes simply glaze over when the techno-babble begins (ha ha) as I apparently get fired up about this need to create.

...she even renewed my Playboy subscription...